Healing and Transformation

Healing and Transformation

 

 

Book: “Healing and Transformation: Moving from the Ordinary to the Extraordinary” by Eric Alsterberg, Ph. D.

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

This book is a combination psychological book and spiritual book. It discusses case examples and references many books. The overall encompassing message is that we, as a people, are having a spiritual experience while in human form. This message is emphasized throughout the book.

I like the case examples including the ones from the author’s life. He brings insight into the spiritual life and of that entering into the New Golden Age. The author covers many life subject areas from masculinity and femininity roles, intimate relationships to parenting.

Eric Alsterberg says there are no coincidences – that everything is as it should be. However, depending upon how we think positively or negatively determines what kind of world we will have. Depending upon our actions to be Christ-like or opposite also determines the kind of Earth we will live in.

He speaks of listening to the inner voice, the higher self or God presence in our intuition or while we meditate. We can hear from angels, ascended masters or our guides. We will be only give so much information as we can handle. We make decisions based on what we know and sometimes information is withheld for our own benefit.

Dr Alsterberg says there are many traditional methods for healing which include psychotherapy, self-help groups, twelve step tradition groups, self-help books and technologies, seminars and workshops, massage therapy, Reiki, meditation and prayer.

He uses hypnotherapy in his practice and sometimes deals with past-life regression. He believes that many issues that we currently deal with may have their karmic beginnings in past lives. This is something we need to deal with.

Dr. Alsterberg mentions some of his client’s problem with abuse. In one situation, a woman kept attracting abusive partners. He concludes that “Guilt is often an attack on us for not being able to forgive ourselves.” Further forgiveness is important because God is Pure Love and has already forgiven us. Yet people struggle to forgive themselves. We need to release the negative and fear-based emotions within ourselves. Dr. Alsterberg makes his clients visualize positive and love-based emotions leaving and then coming back down a beam of light from higher dimensions and going back into the person.

This book tries to cover many aspects of life. It is am ambitious project. It is an interesting book. Some points, I do not agree with because they have not been proved but they are minor problems with the book. You will know them when you see them. I recommend this book to those who like psychological and spiritual books.

Tags: psychological, spiritual, New Golden Age, coincidences, angels, ascended masters, guides, psychotherapy, self-help groups, twelve-step traditional groups, self-help books and technologies, seminars, workshops, massage therapy, reiki, meditation, prayer, abusive partners, higher dimensions, beam of light

Happiness Now!

Happiness Now

Book: “Happiness Now: Timeless Wisdom for Feeling Good Fast” by Robert Holden

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

After finishing this book, I took some time to reflect upon it. It is a good read. It makes a lot of common sense. Ultimately, it is important to love yourself now – not in the past or some time in the future but now. It is the sacredness of loving yourself that makes you more loveable and special. The world is a mirror. You only can see what you are prepared to see. If you have guilt in your life, you will see guilt. If you see failure, you will see failure. If you see goodness, you will see goodness. To find joy, you must uncover the guilt, the fear, the doubts, past conditioning and your history. True happiness, on the other hand, is an inner power which is “…natural, healing, abundant and always available.”

Interestingly, the EGO can be seen as Edging God Out or Everything Good is Outside. The ego or the conditioned self sees you as being in the wrong; as having something inherently wrong with you. One way of thinking about the ego is to think of a bird flying high in the sky trying to find the sky. Thy are already in it. It is like a fish in water being thirsty.

Robert Holden mentions a lot of psychological schools from Alfred Adler, Carl Jung, Fritz Perls, Roberto Assiagolio, R.D. Laing, Janov, Eric Berne and Dr. J.L. Moreno. He indicates what the schools calls the ego and the unconditioned self or spirit. Even Sigmund Freud changed his mind towards the end of his life and said “In the final analysis, we must love in order not to fall ill.” Psychology is finding its soul.

Robert Holden further looks at Eastern Mysticism for enlightenment. He even searches Christianity Sikhism, Islam and Buddhism. He quotes “Search not in distant skies; in man’s heart God lies” and so forth. “Ye are Gods,” Jesus said to the people.

During Robert Holden’s Happiness Project, they did everything to elicit emotion and to deal with it. They remember the truth and let go of the pain. Robert indicates that you need to be able to spend time by yourself and love yourself while doing that.

Mr. Holden, however, has the belief that you can’t do the healing by yourself. I disagree. He thinks you need a counsellor or some sort of way of releasing the emotion. He says “…a true healer helps you to remember and reconnect consciously with your inner light.” Your inner light being the unconditioned self that is loving, free of fear and creative.

He indicates that there are a lot of positive things that happen when you are happy. People will gravitate towards you and will not know why. To be happy, you must first undo your misperceptions, false conditioning and fearful beliefs. It is a road that people can and should travel. It is the journey that matters and not the destination.

The book has a number of poems and sayings that are positive and helpful. The book is a reminder to be happy now instead of a prolonged time afterwards. It is a call to action. I recommend this book for those who wish to pursue more happiness in their lives. It is an anniversary book put out by Hay House.

Tags: Alfred Adler, Carl Jung, Fritz Perls, Roberto Assiagolio, R.D. Laing, Janove, Eric Berne and Dr. J.L. Moreno, psychology, self, love, soul, inner light, Happiness Project.

Suffering?

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Book: “You Were Not Born to Suffer: Love Yourself Back to Inner Peace, Health, Happiness & Fulfillment” by Blake D. Bauer

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

This book is extensive. I took the maximum time to read this book before it left my computer due to time restrictions. The practical questions are worth their weight in gold. They are very in depth and inquisitive. They make you really wonder about your past and how it has affected your current status in life. I particularly liked the letters written from your current age to your 5 year old, 10 year old, 15 year old and 20 year old stage and so forth. It continues to your current stage of development. In exchange, you also write from a younger age to the current age a letter. It is very informative what comes out of your mind.

The beginning is good but is indicated as an introduction. It should not be that as it is already an intimate part of the book. It should have been chapter 1 and continued onward.

Blake write about the butterfly scenario. I love this story because it says so much. A butterfly was trying to get out of its cocoon and a person thinking they would be kind in helping it out cut it out of its cocoon. Not realizing that blood runs to its wings and that the butterfly comes out exactly when it is strong enough and ready enough to come out. The person did not help the butterfly but hindered the life path of the butterfly. The butterfly was bloated and could not fly. That is with us people. We need to deal with the difficulties to deal with the good things afterwards. It builds strength.

Blake indicates that we become depressed or unwell because we have not learned to express our emotions. We need to remain healthy and happy throughout our lives but for this to happen, we need to be aware of how we are feeling and able to bring out the good and the bad. We need to be authentic to ourselves.

In fact, no one is a bad person for wanting an authentic life. It is simply a desire that each human being has and should have. If we are not reaching our potential it is because we don’t know how to meet our needs. We don’t even know how to ask for what we want or need.

Our egos are not wrong. If we do make our egos wrong, we effect our psyches in a negative way.

According to Buddha, it is not to live in the past or the future but it in the present moment that counts and makes all the difference. There are many good quotes from many good sources throughout the book. I also liked the affirmations that are included after the chapters.

We do need to realize that negative experiences from the past were there to teach us a lesson for leading towards our true purpose. “Everything is exactly as it is supposed to be.”

With that, I will close my review and recommend this book for anyone who is suffering. Read the book and enjoy the insights. Take the time to do the questions as they bring much insight that you would otherwise would get from a counsellor but this way you can do it on your own. Best of luck.

Tags: younger age, younger self, past, butterfly, cocoon, Buddha, ego, suffering, psychology, insights, counsellor, potential, extensive.

Quantum Love

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Book: “Quantum Love: Use Your Body’s Atomic Energy to Create the Relationship You Desire” by Laura Berman

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

This is an extensive book dealing with not only quantum love but how better to live your life. The author was taking care of her body and soul or so she thought. However, a year after losing her mother to cancer, Laura Berman developed breast cancer in the same breast as her mother had. She was devastated and went into a total alternate transformation.

She has come to realize that energy is everywhere. Energy is within the chair you are sitting on, the air you breathe and within the relationship you have with your spouse or partner. In fact, there is such a connection between people that Laura no longer feels it is necessary to counsel with both partners being present in the room. Affecting one person, affects the other. If one makes changes, the other has to change as well.

She looks at better food and green smoothies to start the day. Warm lemon water is the start before that cup of coffee you may need and like to have. Breathing is another important thing that you develop in yoga and other disciplines. One is the 4-7-8 breath where you inhale for 4, hold for 7 and exhale for 8 seconds. The other breathing technique is the square technique where you breathe for 4 imagine a top of a square, hold for 4 seconds going down the side of the square, then exhale for 4 seconds third side of the square and finally 4 seconds to hold on the final side of the square. Once you get good at it, you can add affirmations to the square. Finally, there is the bellows breathing effect. You breathe in rapidly as if you are fanning an actual fireplace. You breathe in and out in quick succession, making a sort-of panting noise through your nose.

Laura says it is important to have a good self-image of what your body is capable of. When you are critical of every pound and wrinkle, you are decreasing your energetic level. That is no way to keep your energy at a high level of quantum love.

Ms. Berman says we need to listen to our bodies to give it what it needs. Our emotions carry energy and have weight to them. You can get them stuck in the body system as indicated by blocked chakras. You need to experience emotions to go through them. After a good cry, you feel lighter because the energy has passed, for example.

There are a few frustrating things about the book in that Laura uses abbreviations that she has made up. They do not make sense and are not easy to remember. I find myself just skipping over those parts as being misunderstandings. So, as a result, I recommend having a piece of paper where you can jot down the abbreviations so you are not as lost as I was. Second, she references her website quite a few times but it is not specific in the website so you do not know where to go. I think some effort should have been made to point the audience into the right direction instead of having to explore the website. Third, I would almost say the book is too long and tries to cover too much information, other than the back end of the book is amongst the book. It has tools and techniques on how to improve your sexual relationship. It is said that Quantum Sex is Quantum Love and vice versa.

I would recommend this book for couples whether heterosexual or homosexual in orientation. It helps to bridge the gap of sexual experiences. It is also a very personal story or Dr. Laura Berman’s struggle with her breast cancer. Enjoy!

Tags: quantum love, quantum sex, breast cancer, spouse, partner, sexual, relationship, energy, self-image, tools, techniques, love-making, kundalini, chakras

Vibrations

Vibrations

How do you raise your vibrations?

Book: “’Raise Your Vibration: 111 Practices to Increase Your Spiritual Connection” by Kyle Gray

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

I have always wondered how to increase my vibration and here I found a book exactly to deal with this subject-matter. It recommends that you do the 111 practices – one per day, however, as I was reviewing this book, it necessitated me doing the practices in a relatively short period of time.

Kyle Gray is the young author at only 28 years of age. He has been intuitive for a long period of time. When he was 4 years old, he was visited by his grandmother’s soul. He continued to be intuitive into his teens when he developed an interest in spirituality and angels.

He covers many of the main topics such as everything is energy and that God is love. He writes that what he discussed in this book is not contrary to any religious doctrine and that it can be acceptable to all people. The information is basic to becoming a lightworker who does good in society and is trying to make a positive difference in the world.

Kyle Gray goes through presenting the practices or vibes according to the main seven chakras plus three others. One is the Earth Star Chakra which is found 6 to 12 inches below the feet. The second is the Soul Star Chakra which is found 6 to 12 inches above the crown or head chakra. Finally, there is the Stellar Gateway Chakra which is found 12 inches above the head chakra and with its connection to the cosmos.

When we accept the spiritual gift and mission that lightworker is on, we “awaken and empower ourselves from the inside out.”

One of my favourite vibes is vibe number 73 which is affectionately known as Cleanse, Tone and Moisturize. It speaks of the importance of cutting or shearing off the negative chords that are connected to us and then to recognize divine light as our inner being and finally to protect ourself with a shield in a colour of our choosing. By surrounding your aura, you can protect yourself against negative influences.

The first 90 practices or lessons make up the main part of the book. They are to be done one at a time on a daily basis as if you were doing A Course in Miracles. Then the next 21 vibes are affirmations that you can reflect upon also on a daily basis.

Finally, the book ends off with the Declaration of a Lightworker where you sign your name to it.

I recommend this book for people who are into New Age Spirituality and specifically as a good training book for Lightworkers. I give this book a rating of 4 out of 5 stars. It was released on March 29, 2016 by Hay House.

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Tags: vibrations, chakras, energy, love, Jesus, Ascended Masters, Angels, Archangels, Lightworker, spiritual, vibes, practices, lessons, A Course in Miracles, Affirmations, Intuition

Déjà vu?

Past LifeBook: “The Past Life Perspective: Discovering Your True Nature Across Multiple Platforms” by Ann Barham

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

Have you ever met someone and been automatically in sync with them, be they male or female? Conversely, have you ever met someone and instantly disliked them? Do you have an affinity for doing things despite not being really trained in it? Are you really connected to a certain part of the world, certain cultures, foods or foreign languages? If you have said “Yes” to any of these questions, you may have a clue to as your past life.

One of the best things you can do is start paying attention to your dreams looking for recurring patterns, be they specific people , scenes or circumstances. If you can afford it, travelling to different parts of the world can trigger past life memories. If you are able to be familiar with certain territories without a guidebook, you may be “home.” If you have a deep profound connection to a place, you may be reconnecting to a past life. You may use the services of a past-life regression therapist who will put you into a light meditative state. Usually a person who is used to meditation is able to hit a trance quicker and be able to reflect upon a past life regression quicker but not always.

There are difficulties in doing a past life regression such as hitting traumatic events, which need to be processed, developing closure and learning the lessons from them. For this reason, it is better to use the services of a certified regression therapist instead of doing it yourself. Mind you, some people are excellent dreamers and so can remember and reflect over a past-life regression during dreams or sleep time. If a person is not able to regress it is because they have a hard time relaxing in normal life or they are not to get a message at this time. Their issues may simply be from this current lifetime and so conventional therapy is the answer with counselling.

I found the past-life regression stories very interesting. They ranged in dates, times and spaces. I felt like I was reading short-story historical fiction and yet it was somebody’s regression. In some ways, it does matter whether past-life regression is a fact or not because if the therapy works in solving problems in your life, it was worth it. People have gotten over fears, resolved feelings with loved ones and found renewed purposes with their life.

I found this book extremely entertaining and interesting. I recommend it for New Age spiritually-minded people. This paperback book edition will be available through Atria Publishing in June 2016. I give it a 5 out of 5 rating.

Tags: in sync, connection, repulsion, affinity, hobby, practice, talent, country, culture, food, foreign language, travel, dreams, meditation, traumatic events, historical fiction, New Age, Spiritual, interesting.

Trust

Trust

 

Book: “Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts” by Iyanla Vanzant

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

This book of “Trust” by Iyanla Vanzant is very involved. She covers trust from the perspective of Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others and Trust in Life. “Cause and effect, correspondence, vibration, attraction, love and forgiveness are all concrete laws that govern the movement and unfolding of life.”

This book is a good read from the beginning stories of Iyanla’s life when she had to claim bankruptcy in her life. She had to live in a renting situation for years even after starting the “Iyanla: Fix My Life” TV series on the OWN network. After having risen from poverty to a high state of living, she was not used to this style of life. When her relationship with her husband broke down and other relationships broke down in her personal and professional life, her standard of life went downhill. She prayed to God for direction. She was happy to be living in a rental situation with limited opportunities when friends asked her when she would be moving on. She gave it some reflection over a couple of years. She had to overcome her bankruptcy situation. She had to be pre-approved for a mortgage. She found a place in need of much repair. To make a long story short, it was her friend, Oprah Winfrey, who came in with Nate Berkus and repaired it for her as a surprise. She was very grateful.

Next comes the part of trusting in God. Actually, this theme carries throughout the book. Without God’s prime direction, you are missing out. It is God who provides the lessons to be learned. It is with trusting in God that he/she has your back that good things happen to you. It is through God, that you are able to listen to your intuition or your inner guidance system. Plus, if you are able to say “No” to circumstances that do not serve your better interests or desires, you will be better off.

Dealing with trust in others is an interesting expression of situations that Iyanla has found herself in. She is able to tell interesting stories of people she has met on their path. Some of the stories seem so dramatic but it is only because I find the stories so heart-wrenching. Person after person, has been let down by their parents, by their spouses, by their employer or by their business. Lessons need to be learned and through the process of identifying issues affecting the small little girl or boy inside, it is necessary to deal with the past issues without getting stuck there. People make progress by believing in God and trusting their intuition. They lean into trust and make hard decisions. Iyanla even speaks of Jay, the man who fathered 34 children with 17 different women that was featured on “Iyanla, Fix My Life.” Somehow he was able to convince all these women to trust him and that he would change just for them.

Finally, Iyanla speaks of trust in life. She outlines many people who were cut off before they even started. She mentions people like George Lucas who spent four years trying to sell his script for Star Wars which is now a block-buster set of movies. Then there was Michael Jordan who was cut from his high school basketball team and came to be a legend in and of himself. It took Harland David Sanders 1010 attempts to sell his secret chicken recipe before he got a bite and became Kentucky Fried Chicken fame. Walt Disney was fired from his newspaper job for lacking ideas and went into personal bankruptcy before he was able to establish the world famous Walt Disney Theme Parks. Fred Astaire after his first screen test was given a less than passing mention and was said to be able to dance a little bit. Vince Lomardi was said to have minimal football knowledge and went on to be one of the best NFL coaches. Tyler Perry was so poor he lived out of his car for six years while trying to establish himself as an actor and movie mogul. Forbes put him as the second highest earning man in 2011 and then there is J.K. Rowling who was a depressed single mother trying to make her world of Harry Potter come alive. Now she is a billionaire author. Success came to these people because they continued to try and so can you.

Trust in the process of life. I would recommend this book to those willing to explore this process of life and trust.

Tags: trust, self, God, others, life, Villa Nova, bankruptcy, Iyanla’s life, Oprah, Nate Berkus, God, spirit, inner guidance system, intuition, personal stories, George Lucas, Michael Jordan, Harland David Sanders, Walt Disney, Fred Astaire, Tyler Perry, JK Rowling, process, life, Course in Miracles.

Freedom from Emotional Eating

Emotional Eating

 

Book: “Freedom From Emotional Eating” by Paul McKenna

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

Paul McKenna is a successful author in Great Britain. He has been described as a modern-day guru with a mix of Dr. Phil and Tony Robbins. He offers a number of techniques for dealing with emotional eating and emotional overeating.

He sees the industry of diet-clubs and diets in general with the billion-dollar industry as a farce. The industry know that its substitute products do not work and that dieting does not work and yet they continue to sell their wares. Over 70% of people who go on diets regain the lost weight and often more.

The new “normal” is not a good normal. Over one-third of British people and one-half of Americans are clinically obese. This is absurd that in western countries with overwhelming amounts of food, that there are people starving themselves.

Paul McKenna says there is his Golden Rule of Four. First, you should only eat when you are truly hungry. Second, you should eat what you want. Third, however, you should eat consciously. And fourth, you should stop when you are full. These golden rules have been written in about in his previous books: “I Can Make You Thin” in 2005 and “Hypnotic Gastric Band” in 2012. Both these books have helped many thousands of people to lose weight. They provide the basic outline that this book also includes but more.

Paul McKenna says that the book is only half of the products he offers. The second important part is the audio and video downloads associated with the Hay House website. You have access to his Hypnotic Trance, to “Listen While You Eat,” the Emotional Balancing Technique, Stop Self-Sabotage Technique, and the Havening Technique. He offers some hypnosis to deal with the emotional aspects of overeating. A person usually eats to numb their negative pain and doesn’t want to deal with their negative emotion such as sadness, anger, grief, fear or depression.

McKenna’s method deals also with associated reasons for self-sabotage when the real reason for the original action was for self-protection or self-preservation. It the past, they may have decided that a certain emotion could not be dealt with because it was too scary and needed to be protected by another method of dealing with the suffering and pain and so they compensated by overeating or emotionally eating.

Finally, there are success tracker sheets which keeps you on target by asking simple questions and also whether you have used certain techniques that day. Eventually, a person gets a handle on their emotions, even the negative ones. Gradually people lose weight and this method is more long-lasting because it is not a fad or passing fancy.

Tags: author, guru, Dr. Phil, Tony Robbins, Golden Rules, eating, wanting, consciously, full, audios, videos, Hypnotic Trance, Emotional Balancing Technique, Stop Self-sabotage Technique, Havening Technique, negative pain, negative emotions, self-sabotage, self-protection, self-preservation, suffering, pain, success tracker sheets, target, long-lasting.

The Aha! Factor

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Book: “The Aha! Factor: The Intuitive Guide to Getting What You Desire and Deserve” by Mariana M. Cooper

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

I feel as if the author Mariana M. Cooper or Mari has been a long lost friend of mine. We have so much in common. Her journey into the spiritual realm started back in the 1980s as did mine. She has many insights that I agree with. Some I already knew but others are written out in such a way that they make more sense. As well, many of her spiritual habits are ones that I have been doing.

In the beginning of the book, Mari explains the Bull’s-eye of Energy which consists of three rings. The first is your aura which extends from your body for 50 feet or 15 meters. The second ring is the soul which extends 500 feet or 150 meters from your body in all directions. It is vast and impacts much more than you realize. Finally, the last ring is the spirit which extends indefinitely and is part of the entire universe. It is the interconnectedness of everything physical and non-physical and has no limits. Through focussed thought you are engaging the Bull’s-eye of Energy. Until you use it, is remains neutral and not in use.

From there there is the energy grid or Energetic Communication System (ECS) which is a massive web of light just like a cosmic spider web which interconnects all things. This reminds me of the ever-present Internet and its capacity to be worldwide. The ECS is where we manifest, magnetize, actualize and attract our desires and intentions. It works in conjunction with your five senses of touch, smell, taste, hearing and sight. The ECS consists of your intention, your intuition, your telepathic ability, your channeling ability and your capacity to receive and perceive both physical and energetic information.

The Aha! Factor is the ability to take information and make it understandable in a context from many sources. The Aha! Factor uses intuition a great deal and to understand its modern context, one only has to look towards Oprah when she gets the insight of having a conversation with someone or something finally makes sense in a new way. Your Aha! Factor uses the four clairs – clairvoyance, clairsentience, claircognizance and clairaudience. Your intuition uses signs, symbols and synchronicity. Your Infinite Self interprets all information because it uses our entire being from the energetic part of ourselves to our physical part of our life.

There is so much information and good understanding in this book that it is impossible to go over each aspect in this review. It is best to get a copy of the book and read it for yourself. I highly recommend this book for people who are aware of being spiritual or are into a new age/way of thinking of enlightenment.

Tags: friend, concepts, understanding, bull’s-eye, energy, aura, spirit, soul, Energetic Communication System, web, light, magnetize, manifest, actualize, attract, desires, intentions, five senses, touch, smell, hearing, sight, smell, intuition, telepathic, channeling, Ah Ha! Facotr, clairaudience, clairvoyance, clairsentience, claircognizance, signs, symbols, synchronicity, spiritual, new-age, enlightenment.

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Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul

Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul

Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul

Book: “Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul: 101 True Stories of Angels, Miracles and Healings” by Arielle Ford

Book Review by Mary Mikawoz

You could read this book non-stop from front cover to the end but I don’t recommend it. The stories are fascinating and almost unbelievable but they are better read one story at a time. From Mystical Places to Romances of the Soul to Help from Above to The Other Side, the stories are inspiring. They tell of the mystical beings of humanity.

One of the first stories that struck a chord for me is the story of “The Day the Gods were Thirsty.” A marble-stone statue of the elephant god, Ganesha was drinking milk. All over India, in fact, the statues were drinking up milk that was offered by the people. It was broadcast all over the world by CNN and the BBC. It is amazing that something like this could ever happen but apparently it did.

This story is one of the amazing stories of the 101 stories presented.

I would recommend this book as a nice gift to anyone who requires inspiration and hope.